Speakers are often most awkward when they first take the stage, either loudly proclaiming their arrival overpowering the room with nervous energy or cautiously mumbling good evening as they fumble with their notes. Painfully, this is at the very moment when the audience is most judgmental. Susan Kerby
Presence defined means to be in a state or FACT of being present, as with others or in a place.
How this applies to Susan’s Mistake #1 is that even though we may be there in the physical presence our mind
is not engage in the situation.
Instead it is flipping out because you might actually have to talk to these people who have come to see YOU
and be in your PRESENCE! You have to own the fact that YOU have something to say. You have something THESE people came and took time out of their overly hectic lives to be with and see you. OWN IT. You have value and people want to tap
Another great definition of the word presence is to have the ability to PROJECT a sense of ease, poise, or self-assurance, especially the quality and manner of a person’s bearing before an audience. If you are an introvert being on stage can be a horrible, sweaty nightmare of probing eyes, discerning looks and anathema. You will have more obstacles to get to the point of
feeling casual and comfortable in front of a crowd just as quickly as the most popular girl in school but it i
s completely possible.
You have 1 minute to captivate your crowd. You can’t be nervous or fumbling, strange or stone like, flashy and
funny to be taken seriously. You need to walk into a room, survey your kingdom, and act like the sale is already
in the bag. The first 3 minutes are crucial to establishing yourself as an exciting and invigorating person that
excels in your specific area of expertise.
Here’s the solution:
SOLUTION #1: Captivate Your Audience with your presence before you even say “Hello”.
Walk in as royalty. Pause at the front edge of the stage. Let yourself be seen. With your eyes, silently say, “I see you and I am glad you are here.”
The Queen never shouts, “HEY! THE QUEEN IS HERE!” Neither does the Queen enter meekly, questioning if she deserves to be heard. The Queen walks in calm, strong, unassailable. The audience knows from her presence, her vulnerable strength, they are in good hands and in for a treat. SK
In the movie My Fair Lady there is a moment when Eliza Doolittle walked into the ball she had prepared for by
suffering at the hands of Henry Higgins strict instruction. They called her a Hungarian Princess. No one called her or could even imagine that the woman before them was a lowly street seller of bits of flowers. Why? Because she had practiced her speech patterns, her posture which affected how she carried herself and her gracious mannerism that put the others around her at ease. Every single one of them at the ball wanted to be with her.